People genuinely want you to FAIL!

Your friends, your co-workers, people you don’t know, and yes, even some of your family.

“That’s not true, 20 people commented on my Facebook post telling me they’re so proud when I got my promotion.”

Those people are getting points.

Here’s how it works: There’s a point system.

  • If you publicly say something nice, you get a point +1

  • If you don’t say anything, you don’t +0

  • If you say something (even slightly) negative, you lose 100 points -100

I tend to stay in the middle. I like to maintain a comfortable 0 points.

Why do these matter?

They don’t! Everyone wants you to fail anyways. The only incentive to get points is so when you post about getting promoted, they can reciprocate the “kind” deed, and earn points. This cycle continues and makes everyone feel warm and fuzzy.

Here’s the problem:

When you’ve proven a success, it makes people feel as if they’ve fell under you. You get promoted over a co-worker, now you’re better than them. If you cook an awesome meal for your husband, now Jessica has to do it for her husband or else you’re better than them.

This is how I know:

I used to work for Apple.

I would run into old acquaintances and the first question in small talk is always “What do you do?”

This is how it would play out more often than not:

Person: “Hey! I haven’t seen you in so long. How are you?”

Me: “I’m great, how’ve you been?”

Person: “Good, good. Where do you work now?”

Me: “I work at Apple.”

Person: “Oh okay. Applebees.”

This is when I learned that everyone subconsciously wants you to fail. 

I’m not saying it’s bad to work at Applebees. I personally have no issue with Applebees and only think its bad if you hate your job. Apple was a mall job, which I view very low on the success scale. But thats a story for another time.

The problem is the thought process.

“If I can undermine their job, mine will seem better. Which makes me better than them. I have to be better than them.”

First off, I said Apple, there’s no mistaking that.

Secondly, if you view Apple as superior to Applebees, and you want me to fail, you will hear Applebees.

It didn’t register until about the 5th time this happened to me where I realized, everyone is a dick.

You may disagree with me on this topic, but:

  • Think back to the last time something good happened to someone you kind of know, how many friends did you gossip to questioning their character?

  • The last time someone got a promotion over you, did you feel they were better for the job and deserved the position?

  • When you got laid off and Rick got to keep his job, did you feel that was just?

Sorry, you kind of want people to fail…

Blame it on human nature, or, just go out and live YOUR life, not theirs. Stop competing.

If you don’t like where you are now, do something to change it. Don’t undermine others successes.

And… If you happen to disagree with everything I’m saying in this post…

Congratulations! You are happy.



2017-09-13T12:16:26-04:00 September 13th, 2017|